... and i happen to be "well-spoken".
... so it is very, very difficult for me to convey in words [whether written or spoken] what i would like for people to understand, if that makes sense.
for instance, i'm sitting here, staring at a photo of a "grand gesture" from boyfriend to girlfriend for the girlfriend's birthday, and i'm shaking my head and wishing that girls aren't so blind.
EVERY guy, even those who truly are creeps [even those who don't get away with being true creeps], knows what women want. we know because girls tell us--all day, every day--especially in this day of instant sharing to the public masses.
those guys who are successful with women, especially those who fill the "grand gesture" demand not for the girl's sake but for their own sake, make [say] my social life that much more difficult EVERY DAY, ALL DAY.
if only because they extend "grand gesture"s so often that the value of a grand gesture from me ... well, a grand gesture from me has no value, and i'm told that i have no value, and it's spread around that i am undesireable.
... or guys extend "grand gesture" after "grand gesture" after "grand gesture", get in the girls' panties with each, and then the guys stop and stop putting the "good man" mask on, and i get punished for it.
... AND i get punished for every girl who's been raped or otherwise been mistreated by OTHER MEN looooong before the girl knows i exist.
i mean, why shouldn't i withhold grand gestures until i'm sure of the girl? because other guys just ply 'em out in order to endear themselves as quickly as possible to each girl, and to keep themselves endeared to each girl for as long as the girl puts out [even not talking about sex]?
the first of the three girls who sent me to prison ASKED ME for my opinion, from a man's point of view, as to why her ex-fiance broke their engagement off the week of their wedding.
i was honest, especially because i know that no other dude would be honest unless they're trying to get into her panties, so they wouldn't be honest: i told her her own story back to her, verbatim. i told her that he was likely already cheating on her, when they broke up, because that was the only way that he could keep himself from whining about her not spreading her legs for him until after marriage. i told her that her modesty about pda just around her parents was likely the stresser between them, since he was getting his wick wet elsewhere. she didn't "treat him like a king", and wouldn't until after they were married, and he got tired of waiting.
THAT is when she decided that i'm undesireable, and she started a quick chain of women punishing me for what OTHER MEN did wrong by them, punishment which culminated in me having to stay in prison for a couple of years because i got fed up and revolted, spoke up for myself.
ask anyone, including Twitch streamers: i owe everyone everything. no one owes me anything. i have no right to speak up for myself, to stand up for myself, and i'm not valueable enough for anyone to speak up on my behalf, to go to bat for me.
"grand gestures" are the way to go, and that's AFTER the girl approves of the boy on a superficial plane. the "superficial plane" includes storytelling, unfortunately, and i've derailed, so i'll shut up, now.
